When you’re on Tinder, do you ever stare at your phone and wonder when your match will respond? It’s possible that your first sentence was too dull. It might have been too strange. It’s possible that you didn’t even send one. Oh no.
In the world of Tinder, the first line has to be fired because the first impression is important. It’s important to stand out, be remembered, and maybe even get a date. How do you go about that? Right now, we have some tips from Sera Bozza, Tinder’s dating expert. Get ready because we’re about to make your Tinder game better.
Things To Consider Before Hitting Send
Take a moment to think about what you want to say before you send the first message. Be honest with yourself: What kind of Tinder user am I? Are you funny? Have fun? Right to the point? Too much of a romantic? Own it, no matter what it is.
Bozza shared some golden rules to ensure you’re making the best first impression:
- Use their first name. They don’t feel like contestant #134 on The Bachelor, but like they’re being seen.
- Use something from their profile as proof. Prove that you read it and didn’t just swipe because the pictures are cute.
- Keep it short and snappy. Not a single person wants to read an essay first.
- Avoid clichés. They’ve probably seen it on the internet if you have. Do your best.
Personalization Is Key
Do not paste the same line into every match. People who use Tinder can tell when someone is being lazy from a mile away. Instead, make something that only that person can see. Did they say they like to walk? Say something like, “Tell me about the best hiking trail you’ve been on, and I’ll act like I’ve worked out before.”
The point is to make them feel unique and involved. A message that shows you put some thought into it is always better than one that isn’t specific.
Focus On Quality, Not Quantity
Tinder isn’t a game of numbers. Try sending the same pick-up queue to a small group of people instead of sending it to dozens of people all at once. Find good matches and make your messages fit those matches.
Also, read their bio for the love of swipes. If she says she’s a vegan, don’t ask her if she would like her steak medium-rare or well-done. Instant power from a left swipe.
What It’s Like To Be A Girl On Tinder
It’s a secret that women on Tinder get a lot of messages. Don’t think that your Superlike makes you better than other people. Perhaps ten guys in their direct messages are all using the same old pick-up line.
What does this mean for you? You need to be unique. Find a way to get their attention that doesn’t seem forced. Also, please move on if they don’t answer. Double messaging is a sign of desperation. Being clingy is not attractive; being confident is.
Best Generic Tinder Pickup Lines (that Actually Work)
That’s okay if not everyone has a full bio. A funny one-liner or question can sometimes be enough to get things going. Here are some good ways to start:
- “Pick your perfect Sunday: Netflix binge or museum visit?”
- “Describe yourself in three emojis. Bonus points if they’re completely unhinged.”
- “What’s your definition of a good weekend?”
- “If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be and what would you be doing?”
- “Top three things to do on a Saturday?”
- “Tell me, what can I say to impress you?”
- “Choose a historical era, and I’ll try to come up with a pickup line relevant to it.”
- “Cheesy chat-up line, GIF war, or blind date—choose your adventure.”
- “If you were a dessert, what would you be?”
- “Two truths and a lie. Go!”
One thing these openers do really well is start a conversation. Instead of making the person read it, roll their eyes, and swipe left, they ask for a response.
Bonus: Make Sure Your Profile Is Doing Its Job
If your profile is terrible, not even the best pickup line will help you. A well-set-up profile can do half the work for you, Bozza said. In other words:
- Photos are good. Get rid of selfies and group photos that are so blurry that no one can tell who you are.
- An honest bio. “I have nothing interesting to say” is what a blank bio says. Not a good look.
- A bit of character. Make them want to swipe right on you by being fun and interesting.
Tinder is more than just sending out pick-up lines and hoping for the best. It’s about getting to know people. And if you use these tips, you might get more responses, and maybe even a date.
Now go forth and swipe wisely!
